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April 27, 2019 at 4:06 am #113690
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KeymasterMatthew Easton graduated today as the Valedictorian of the BYU Political Science Department. He included the following in his speech:
Quote:“As a gay son of God…”
Here is the link to the video of the entire speech. It is exceptional.
April 27, 2019 at 4:13 am #236601mom3
Participant:clap: :clap: :clap: :clap: :clap: April 27, 2019 at 12:22 pm #236602DarkJedi
Participant:clap: :clap: :clap: Incidentally I happen to know some people who were at that particular graduation – I can’t wait to ask them about it.
Edited to add link to the Youtube video. (The line is just before the four minute mark, but the whole 6+ minutes are good)
https://youtu.be/rLeMVykzvKYhttps://youtu.be/rLeMVykzvKY” class=”bbcode_url”> Ray: Thanks, DJ. I included the link in the original post once I had the chance to do so.
April 27, 2019 at 1:30 pm #236603DoubtingTom
ParticipantDefinitely a sign of progress that a gay man can come out publicly like that at BYU. I can’t help but feel sorrow for his difficult sojourn in the church if he chooses to stay. Living a life devoid of the loving and intimate connections that are so fulfilling to the human experience and essentially becoming a marginalized member of his community.
I love seeing progress but the church is still not a safe space for those of the LGBTQ community.
April 27, 2019 at 3:51 pm #236604DarkJedi
ParticipantDoubtingTom wrote:
Definitely a sign of progress that a gay man can come out publicly like that at BYU.True. Even 5 years ago he probably could not have done that.
Quote:I can’t help but feel sorrow for his difficult sojourn in the church if he chooses to stay. Living a life devoid of the loving and intimate connections that are so fulfilling to the human experience and essentially becoming a marginalized member of his community.
I love seeing progress but the church is still not a safe space for those of the LGBTQ community.
Also true. But who knows where we might be 5 years from now?
April 28, 2019 at 12:40 am #236605Old-Timer
KeymasterMy children’s generation (his generation) is going to change the Church. His speech was met with widespread applause. That says something important. April 28, 2019 at 3:39 am #236606Minyan Man
ParticipantI saw it on youtube as well. It is very encouraging. April 28, 2019 at 8:24 am #236607rrosskopf
ParticipantModerator note: This post has been moved for review.It is being reinserted, with an admin note in the following comment.
Can a gay person not find love and intimacy with the opposite sex? They usually don’t want to, but I’m pretty sure they can. Humans have a greater capacity for love than these labels will suggest.
April 29, 2019 at 2:58 am #236608Old-Timer
KeymasterAdmin Note: We have found over the years that debate about sensitive issues involving radically different views can and usually do become contentious and divisive in a hurry. That result is not in line with our mission, so we focus carefully on keeping threads focused on the point of the original posts, as much as possible. We need to keep that in mind with this post.April 29, 2019 at 3:10 am #236609Old-Timer
KeymasterThis is a personal comment, not an admin note. I just want to make that clear. My intent in writing this post was NOT to launch a debate about homosexuality or any LGBTQ+ issue. My focus was on the obvious fact that a BYU valedictorian coming out to their entire college in a public speech would not have happened even a few years ago – and it certainly wouldn’t have been met by widespread applause from the faculty and student body. I did not want a debate about whether or not full intimacy is possible in a mixed-sex marriage when one person is same-sex attracted. The answer is simple (No), but the explanation is extremely complex.
A good discussion of that question would require a long, detailed disucussion of new medical / neurological understanding of what it means to be LGBTQ+ – including the distinctions among those classifications. Particularly, it would require a solid explanation of the differences between being lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, transgender, and queer – and then an explanation of the subcategories within being queer. For a straight, cisgender male, I am reasonably qualified to have that discussion, but this is not the thread for me to tackle it. It might not be the forum, either.
So, as the author of the original post, I ask that comments remain focused on the intent I outlined in the first detailed paragraph of this comment.
April 29, 2019 at 3:58 am #236610dande48
ParticipantI was at BYU, back in 2007, when First Counsellor Monson lifted the ban on homosexual (non-practicing) students. It’s pretty crazy to think before then, you could get kicked out of BYU for so much as confessing to your Bishop you were attracted to your same gender. I also remember back in 2011, when they lifted the ban of homosexual advocacy. It’s incredible how “quickly” things have changed. It still seems like a very polarizing issue at the BYU campus, but I don’t think that’s the fault of BYU itself, but rather old over-the-pulpit teachings from Church leaders. It
feelsmore accepting (again, the university, not all students/faculty), though I wonder if it’s largely due to publicity and social pressure, more than a “change of heart”. Can an organization really have a change of heart? April 29, 2019 at 4:27 am #236611mom3
ParticipantQuote:Can an organization really have a change of heart?
Haven’t we proven again and again, on good and bad that our organization can change? On a dime, too.
This one is going to be a long haul, but it is already happening. Plenty of Bishops and Stake Presidents are totally supportive of our LGBTQ brothers and sisters. That number keeps growing. Magazines like LDS Living and Meridian post blogs and articles about family members who have changed their hearts and come to love their openly LGBTQ family members and spouses.
We have a two GA’s who have openly gay family members. And likely, more who have friends with family members who are gay. Elder Holland green lighted our acceptance of members with same sex attraction.
So yes an organization is and can change.
April 29, 2019 at 9:44 pm #236612Roy
KeymasterAmazing and wonderful. I know that people can change fairly quickly on this issue as they become acquainted with the struggles and pain of SSA members. It is all hypothetical until you know somebody. May 1, 2019 at 4:20 pm #236613Roy
KeymasterAccording to the BBC, this speech was preapproved by university administration. That just goes to show that this was not some sort of “steal the mic” moment where the speaker goes rogue and the administration scrambles to cut the feed. -
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