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Yep – I am talking to all of you – I am going to need to sit down, shut up, or find a new forum because my name is on nearly every category. I know I am a chatter box but this is embarrassing. Even if you just put an embarrassed emoticom I would sure appreciate it. Thank you and sleep tight. Signing off. 😳 Actually, you make a good point. I seldom respond anymore, because. ..
1. I get tired of getting reprimanded. Way to tight moderation here.
2. I feel bad when I get moderated. I respect the mods and I dont like to make the mods stressed, even though I think they are nuts and playing mental gymnastics most of the time.
3. I simply don’t believe in the the mission of stsyLDS.
If it wasn’t for friends here, I would not resond ever. I’m only responding now out of my great respect and admiration for you and SundanceGT.
Mom3, I don’t mind reading your posts. Sorry I don’t tend to comment that much. Once in a while I might post something, but I really have to feel the need to. I will probably post a new topic pretty soon. I feel that way sometimes, too, Mom3. Sometimes I look at the index page and every category has my name. Sometimes it seems as though there are only a couple posts in a day. Sometimes I don’t respond because I don’t want to appear overbearing or seem like a know-it-all. Sometimes I don’t respond because I know most people won’t agree with my response (depending on my mood) or I don’t want to offend someone (I am sometimes apparently capable of doing so). I do go to other forums just for those reasons – but they’re really not better. Cwald, I thought I was your friend?
I’ve slacked off of late for many reasons, in no particular order: I have my moments and right now I’m not in the best of places. Right now I’d rather turtle up than subject people to my current state of mind.
I’m not much of a thread starter. If I’ve got a question more often than not I want to struggle to answer it myself. For me the value is to be found in the struggle, not the content of the answer. If I have a comment I usually talk myself out of posting it because I convince myself that it’s not thread worthy or I feel like I know what types of responses the thread will elicit.
I agree with some of cwald’s points, I don’t know whether the tone of the site has shifted, whether my perspective has shifted, or most likely a bit of both.
Church just isn’t fulfilling right now. It’s just not. I see the thread “Good things that happen” and long for some of those experiences. Yes, those experiences are there for me if I look hard enough but I’ve got some serious spiritual eye strain going on right now. I’d crate a vent thread called “Bad things that happen” but while it may appear to be a cathartic process on the surface I know that it would just reinforce fostering a negative outlook.
I’ve determined that silence is my best option for now.
I appreciate your comments, Mom3, as well as everyone’s here. Your insights have been very insightful to me as I have been going through this transition over the last year or so. I really like that this forum is respectful and doesn’t just rip on everything. I think the people here are realistic, but keep positive instead of just tearing things down. The tone is refreshing compared to other things out on the Internet.
I read this and immediately thought, “Who, us lurkers?” I can’t speak for anyone but myself, but I check in to read the board about once a day and usually don’t respond or post – and I have wondered at times why that is. I think that some times it is because I am not sure that what I have to say is worth hearing. Some times it is because I am not sure what to say at all. But most of the time it is because I am constantly feeling like I am walking a tightrope. I am getting to the point that I am starting to become more comfortable with myself and my struggles but I still don’t like to dwell on them. It is easier to ignore them. Playing ostrich and sticking my head in the sand doesn’t solve anything, but it sure feels comfortable! And engaging in the conversation here can be uncomfortable. I’m not saying that the people make me uncomfortable, that’s not it at all. It is the conversation itself that makes me uncomfortable. It is the taking my head out of the sand and reflecting on how I actually feel about many of the topics here that leaves me feeling like I am scratching a wound that hasn’t completely healed yet and if I worry it too long, I will reopen it.
So, there you go, you got me to respond!
Quote:I simply don’t believe in the the mission of stayLDS.
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Admin Note]: We love you, cwald, and you’ve been here a long time – and that long-time participation has saved you from being moderated like a new participant would be moderated if that person said the exact same things you often do. If you don’t believe in and can’t support our mission, then maybe this site no longer is right for you. You’ve earned the lighter moderation you’ve gotten, but if you openly reject us and our mission, and if you openly call people who are trying to make it work crazy . . . You made your comment publicly, so I responded publicly. I normally would have sent you a PM. There will be NO further discussion of this. We both have had our say.
Hi Mom3 :wave: It’s no news I don’t pop in every day, and most times I have very limited time anyway. Maybe the truth is after 6 years some of us are starting to fall asleep at the wheel,
:yawn: or lose some of the emotional connection to the issues …or maybe there are other outlets available?Thanks for the wake-up call.
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