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When I first heard it, I was so happy. I thought…finally! We are getting to the heart of the gospel. Of course, we are going overboard now. Why do we do this…… As someone who has had to forgive too much for one person in a lifetime, I have found one test for myself to check myself. You see, I have learned that some people are so wounded/defective/clueless, etc. that you must forgive from a distance….setting boundaries, not trusting them again ever after yet another terrible injury from them. So, my test for myself is this: if I see them on the side of the road, wounded, would I be able to rush to their assistance for that moment to help them? If I can say yes to that and know I really feel that in my heart, then I am okay with forgiving them their injuries to me or mine, as well as being okay with setting boundaries- even if it means keeping them at arms length. It’s been over a year since I last posted. I had to go through all my passwords and finally found my login info written in a certain place. I have too many pots on the stove. Our family is still recovering from the sudden loss of one of our children. We are still healing and will probably still be wounded until we go through the veil. With all that said, I visit this site very regularly. I have many thoughts, but someone usually hits on what I am thinking in their replies. My belief in the afterlife, in Christ, in the sealing ordinances of eternal families helped me to endure situations before the loss of our child and definitely helped me to cope and carry on afterwards. I was not always a member. I grew up in a very stressed home environment with very not perfect parents who failed often. Their children loved them and forgave them anyway. I am the only one of my siblings who has had a happy marriage with happy children. I give the gospel of Christ and the church much credit for that. I am grateful for the Church, with all its imperfections as I view it as a vehicle to travel in to get back to my family (including my Heavenly Parents and older brother and Savior, Jesus Christ) on the other side of the veil.I had spiritual moments before the Church. I felt guided into it. At one point, I wanted to throw in the towel due to frustration with the imperfections of men and a few women. Yes……served in leadership. I am so very glad I did not throw in the towel. I try to help others when I become aware they are at that point. I am a safe person to talk to and can often offer insights. I also recommend this website and when I think they are not going to take the time to visit it, I often pore over the past posts and print out a thread to put into their hands to answer the particular concerns they are working on at the moment. StayLDS does so much good. One other thing….after enduring many not so good moments in life before the church and even after life in the church….I have seen the miracle of forgiveness up close. I have been able to forgive atrocious situations, with heavenly help. I am happy to look backwards down the road traveled and see how I made it through, when I thought at times, I just could not. Thank you to all of you who do take the time to post your thoughts. You give me much meat to chew on. I love hearing your thoughts. My life has been incredibly impacted by the sudden death of an immediate family member, health issues, work, extended family members, etc. since my last post. I still enjoy reading everyone’s thoughts although I am not able to read very often. I especially enjoy hearing everyone’s take on conference talks. Thank you to all of you who share your thoughts! In the past, we have had Chieko Okazaki who was a convert, mother of two, educator and principal. We had had Sherri Dew, single, very successful businesswoman and author. There was also another single sister in the General Relief Society fairly recently who was single and social worker? At one point, we did have diversity among the sister leadership. I wonder why it does not seem to be happening now. We know your heart here, mom3! Today you may be the neighbor you need to love. Take care of wonderful you! I loved the article and especially this in the comment by Carrie: ” You reminded me I am in charge of the charity in my life”. Heber13 wrote:We can learn so much from others not of our faith. And return to our mormon perspectives a little less believing we are the only ones who go through faith questions. Ours may be unique because of Mormonism we share, but God smiles down on us all…hoping we all play nice in his sandbox, and learn what it means to become like Christ.
Sometimes pain gives us opportunities to show our character, and examine our true beliefs…not in doctrine, but in word and deed.
Heber13, this is a great perspective.
intothe light: Thank you so much for posting this! I had not been aware of this man and his experience. Will be sharing this with those closest to me. MockingJay, I am so sorry for your loss. I tried to post last night but had log in difficulties (Thanks Brian for getting me going again!) I won’t go into my own loss situations but the most recent one was within the year and it was a grown child. My husband has struggled through with his faith. He never struggled before. I had some church struggles but really believe,down in my gut, in life after death and I did better overall. Part of why is that I truly believe with all my heart there is much more beyond this. I wasn’t brought up in a religious home and my religious experiences were sought after from an early age and never taken for granted. I view those who have gone on as being in the next room. I have always pursued reading about near death experiences. When we were hit with our tragedy last year, we immediately bought every new book on the market and started reading. One of great interest was by this renown neurosurgeon.
http://www.ebenalexander.com/ This man would have never endorsed the idea of near death experiences until his own occurred. More and more actual research is being carried out now and will be in the future.Most hospice nurses can share observed situations regarding the dying process and visits from loved ones beyond. We witnessed one with my own mother’s death.
I also talk to my loved ones. I have felt their presence in certain situations, especially when I was in a close to death situation myself. There is hope. Believe.
A good grief therapist is worth his/her weight in gold! I totally endorse this idea!
