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All really good comments. I’m going to share with you the point of view from someone who has recently had a husband share his “findings” with me. In all honesty I would not have married my husband had he had these views before we got married. Having said that, I don’t think he would have been the same man had he had those points of view back then. You have to ask the question does my girlfriend know who I am or just who I am pretending to be (that’s not to indicate that you are doing it on purpose). If it is the latter then that is who she has fallen in love with, not the real you. The reason I married my husband is because I could see him being the husband and father I desired. Someone who could give priesthood blessings to our children when they were sick, someone who would see FHE as important… It might be helpful for you to find out what is really important to her and if you can still provide that. The situation is much different when a couple has had time to build a foundation together, hence the reason why DH and I are dealing with our situation so well. Please don’t take this the wrong way but no matter how much you love your girlfriend the foundation of your relationship is not developed, that takes time and work, a lot of time and a lot of work. Two people with different points of view on major issues would have a very difficult time building a firm foundation. So I agree with some of the other comments that you both need to be on the same page, either you need to follow her or she needs to follow you (to a comfortable level) or you both need to go your separate ways.

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Orson wrote:

Welcome!! Can I call you FMOF?? I think you’ll fit in nicely here!

I don’t really mind but just plain “footing” would be do.

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flowerdrops wrote:

I got the impression from your intro that your husband is supporting you along this journey of truth.

Yes I do have my husbands support and the fact that we are going through this stage together has been part of the reason I think I’m handling it so well. Having said that it was very difficult at first. My husband is the one who ventured down this path. It was very hard for me to deal with and I didn’t really want to follow him. However, my husband and I have a very close relationship and it is not uncommon for us to spend the evening just talking so it was kind of hard for him not to share his thoughts with me.

Thanks for the welcome.

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