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As a youth, I quit going because I wanted a fresh start in life. I lived with my Wife before marriage (not the best choice) and got married. I carved my own path with no one’s misconceptions about how I used to be. When I came back 10 years later, I stayed with the Church 7 years between two Wards. I didn’t develop too many relationships at the second Ward, which was part of the problem. It seems that my “Home” Ward has their own circle of friends and I wasn’t around enough to get into that circle. My parents go to the same Ward, so I was always associated with them. People thought I lived in their basement. 😆 In both instances, the lack of friends hurt me. The lack of following up after I left was painful as well. I get that people don’t want to bother those who have left, but an e-mail or a letter would be non-threating. Maybe I am off base, I don’t know.I have since moved on, I can’t have my Wife getting upset every time I go to Church. Since LDS has been so hard for me, I have to think that Hevenly Father has something in mind. I am praying for that revelation to come soon.
Thanks for your reply church0333. My Wife hasn’t attended CofC yet, but I am hoping that it will go well. As far as my feelings go, I had a calling that involved Ward Council meetings. We did a lot of talking about needs of people in the Ward. I just thought that maybe someone would think to at least reach out to me. It’s been almost a year now. You have lots of people who could have done it, Bishopric, Elders, MIssionariries, Stake President, Home Teachers… They seemed more interested in helping other people. I know people are busy, but a quick e-mail would have been nice. Reach out in friendship, at the very least.
Maybe this is the wrong board to be discussing this. I do want to encourage LDS to continue to go to their Wards and Branches. It is a great Church, run by inspired people. Just my experience and my path may be different from others. This is my last chance before I may have to leave religion completely.
No problem 
I actually wish I found this site before. I didn’t want to look up Mormon sites because I thought they were all Anti-Mormon. Glad you responded to my posts with understanding.
There is nothing wrong with just going to Church and participating. I actually loved my calling and loved serving just as much as being taught. I haven’t read about NOM vs TBM but I think there are a lot of people that believe different things based on their point of view. That is how interesting discussions start in GD, WC and other meetings. I don’t believe that the early saints all agreed either. Keep going and keep serving. 
People need to make their own decisions. I couldn’t get my own Wife to do anything with the LDS Church and I barely got her to ok going to CoC. I am not an official member of CoC. You kind of missed my point of my post. This is new territory for me and was hoping that I someone could encourage me to do what your first sentence says. I have experienced loneliness, disappointment and hurt feelings. Look at my username to see how I feel. My cross weighs 100 tons and I have take it with me everywhere I go. I would imagine many part member families, especially those when the spouse doesn’t approve, feel the same way. My calling and other Church work took me away from the house a lot, my Wife was mad every single time I returned home. I thought it was worth it because I was living the gospel and doing His work. This was wrong for me and I wouldn’t recommend it. Family Is supposed to come first, but what if the family doesn’t let you participate? Something had to give, now I am stuck trying to pick up the pieces.
Don’t worry, I still love the Church very much and would never apostasize against the Church. The core Church itself really isn’t the problem, it’s my personal experiences that got me where I am today. Life gets lonely when you are cast off and forgotten. Everyone asks my parents how I am doing, they never asked me directly.
