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I can kind of understand how you feel with the callings. I finally got my first calling and the first lady would not let me help or do my calling at all! Then she is released and someone new comes in. I was happy I finally got to do my calling for a while but then the Relief Society took part of it away (mail route) and told me she didn’t have any one for me to mail and then posted my mail route 2 months later on Facebook! She asked if anyone wanted to volunteer to do the mail route. Looking back I wish I said something but I never did. I don’t know why I didn’t say anything. Then the person above me was released and someone new got put in and she calls me and tells me she is having a meeting at her house and making changes to VT. Then I find out she got rid of my calling and many others to do all the phone calls or reporting herself. So then I am sad because I really want to do my calling and help so I go to the bishop and tell him I don’t know what’s going on but maybe you should release me because I haven’t been able to do anything in my calling for a long time. ( OH yeah I forgot to mention that the new lady said she wanted to keep me around to do stuff for her possibly in the future.. In my head I think dirty work or stuff she doesn’t want to do) So then the bishop says let me find out what is going on and I will get back to you and we can talk soon. Next week I go to church and he says your released from your calling with a smile. I was not very happy because I really just wanted to help. Also, the lady above me wasn’t really doing her calling but kinda told me I couldn’t do mine. Basically instead of myself calling to get reports about visiting teaching, everyone just calls her to report I guess.
I also feel angry because my husband at the same time has not one but two callings and doesn’t do them at all! I don’t understand why some people who don’t want and have no intention of doing callings get them and people that want them and want to help can’t.
I finally just prayed to God and told him to let me know what my calling is and who or what I need to focus on right now in my life. I am not sure I want to serve people that care less about me anyway or don’t really want my help. It just doesn’t feel good. So instead I am thinking about volunteering at CR or Celebrate Recovery that is kind of like a church service on a different day of the week that is not mormon. It feels good to serve where I am wanted and where I can even volunteer to help where I think I can help or do good helping.
Also, I have never wanted to get a tattoo too much but I have had the biggest urge to pop open a can of coke or soda in the middle of a talk about reverence BIG TIME! I mean some times they just go way over board and the RS pres once said that it’s wrong if we don’t curl our hair and wear panty hose every week. She also said it’s wrong to talk to people between or in meetings at church because it’s not reverent. I think if she were bishop she wouldn’t even let people that didn’t meet her expectations in the building. She even said she was too embarrassed to sit by her daughter once because her hair was not curled.
Maybe you can try to not care about the other people there and just try to enjoy the 3 hours your there. Bring a book and read or maybe you can plan your week and set goals. I am not sure though because I struggle with the same thing as you.
Thanks for all your posts. I have been lurking or reading posts here for a long time and it has helped me immensely. I even have a notebook full of ideas and thoughts to help me make church work for me and how to handle things and I bring it to church and read it sometimes in church. ( I hope that’s ok ) I just can’t remember everything so I have a few things written down. I just hope that you don’t take the Staylds website down because I think it could help me more in the future and can help others. I don’t have a list or talk but I have heard one thing here and from a friend that might help. It is to not just like people when they are coming to church. You should visit or talk to them regardless of their activity in the church. Also, I think it’s weird when people talk to me when they are my visiting teacher but then when they are released they never say a word. Well I am sorry I am so late responding but thought I would comment. What Silentdawning said is right. No one cares about injustice done to you. I don’t know if that is right though. I wonder if others could stick up for you or help you? I am not sure what is happening to you exactly but I have learned a few things from some kind of injustice in the past. I hope that maybe you can take something good from what is happening and learn from it. Also, maybe you can help others going thru the same thing or that might be having problems in the church and let them know they are not alone. What I learned is.. -No one and no person can take the spirit from me or try to tell me that I don’t have the spirit.
-I have learned not to ever judge others
-Learned to have more boundaries and to be careful what I tell other people
-I have learned who at church is judgmental (and many didn’t even know me or talk to me much) and who at church is nice and not judgmental. Now I know the nice ones are good friends
-I learned when you go to a bishop to repent and because you feel sorry he may not help you at all or care except to punish you (now I know for future reference)
Also, you have to remember that God knows all and sees all to act justly. I just don’t think bishops and other people know enough sometimes or even when they do they can still choose to act wrongly. Is there a way you can be honest and upfront in a loving way and tell others what they are doing is wrong?
Even though we can’t control what happens or what others think about us we can control our reaction and our feelings. It is very hard though sometimes and I still feel angry sometimes myself about what has happened to me.
