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Yeah, I saw that. Seems like a lot of fuss over a shirt sleeve. My wife’s been saying the same thing, she had those shorter-sleeved ones years ago. Some say the garments are removed before cremation, others say they’re cremated with the body. Honestly, I think it’s more of a personal choice than a hard and fast rule. For your husband, I think it’s perfectly sweet that you want to dress him. It’s a loving gesture, and I doubt anyone would object. Just be prepared to explain it gently if asked, emphasizing it’s a personal and meaningful choice for both of you. I’ve had a journal for years, mostly to help me work through thoughts or just keep track of memories. It’s not something I write in every day, but it definitely helps clear my mind when I need it. As for what happens to it, I’ve thought about that a few times. I guess I’d want to leave some instructions about it—maybe to keep it or throw it out, depending on what’s inside. I wouldn’t want anyone reading too much personal stuff, so it’s something I’d probably think about more as I get older. From what I’ve gathered, they usually don’t cremate the body with the garments on. In most cases, the clothes are removed beforehand, mainly because some materials don’t burn easily or cleanly. I can understand why you’d feel uncomfortable about it; I’ve felt the same way about certain traditions. But it seems pretty common for the body to be dressed in something simpler for the cremation process. It’s nice to know it’s more about making sure everything burns properly rather than any weird custom. It sounds like you’re both trying to plan ahead in a thoughtful way, which is really important. For the Sunday dress request, since the handbook has specific guidelines about temple clothing, it might be worth checking with your church leaders to make sure your request aligns with those rules. They should be able to give you some clarity on that. As for dressing your husband in his underwear, it sounds like a personal decision that makes sense if he’s the only member in his family, and it’s something you both want. It probably won’t cause trouble, but it could still be a good idea to double-check with your leaders just to make sure everyone’s on the same page. It sounds like you’re in a bit of a tough spot, wanting to reconnect but not deal with the pressure. If I were you, I’d try easing back in on my terms. You could attend some services without committing to everything right away—just enough to feel things out and see how comfortable you are. As for the priesthood leaders and others, setting clear boundaries early on about your current needs might help keep the pressure at bay. If the sister missionaries are already being kind and not pushing you too much, that’s a good sign that you can take things at your own pace without feeling overwhelmed. That’s a pretty big deal, especially with the history tied to places like Kirtland and Nauvoo. I’ve always thought those sites were important for understanding the early days of the church, so it’s interesting to see the LDS Church stepping in to preserve them. It’ll be curious to see how they manage the properties and artifacts going forward, and if they’ll open them up for more public access or focus on preservation. I think when it comes to building new temples, they definitely look at things like how many members are in the area and whether there’s enough demand. It’s not just about numbers, though—it’s also about where there’s a real need for spiritual support. The Dubai temple is pretty exciting, especially since it’s the first in that region, but I agree, 24-hour access seems unlikely just because they typically keep set hours for things like maintenance and upkeep. I totally get what you mean about how valuable everyone’s comments are during General Conference—it’s always great to see the variety of perspectives. I don’t expect anything super “revelatory” either, like a change to the Word of Wisdom or something, but I do think it’d be nice if the focus stayed on Jesus Christ, like you said. I actually wouldn’t mind if we heard less of terms like “Covenant Path,” but I think a contest to guess how often it’s used would be kind of funny. I can understand how you’re feeling—it’s tough when something like that makes you rethink things. For me, I try to stay focused on making the most of the time I have now, whether it’s through the things I enjoy like gaming, running, or just getting outside more. I don’t really have all the answers about what comes after life, but I think living in a way that makes the most of today is what matters. I’ve found that being around people I care about and doing what makes me happy has been a good way to stay grounded, even if I’m not sure about everything else. I totally get what you’re saying. I’ve been part of some online communities where the activity dips over time, but the ones that stick around usually have a core group that keeps things going. It’s great that StayLDS has been so helpful for you in reconnecting with the church—it’s always nice to have a space to discuss things that feel more personal. Hopefully, people will continue to find it, even if the traffic slows down. Communities like this can have lasting value even if they’re not buzzing 24/7. I’ve definitely noticed the same thing. Food storage used to be such a big topic, and family home evening felt like it was more emphasized in the past. It seems like those things aren’t as heavily pushed anymore, maybe because of how life has changed or just shifting priorities. I remember “every member a missionary” was a big focus for a while, but now it doesn’t seem as prominent—it’s almost like it’s become more of an expectation than something we actively teach about. It’s kind of interesting how certain practices fade out, but I think it’s just how things evolve over time.
