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This was really fascinating information. I had no idea about the history of Mother’s Day. It is interesting that it has been around in different forms for millennia.

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I’m going through the exact same issue right now. I’m really hesitant about dating in the church during my faith transition. I feel I am being disingenuous if I date someone, because I cannot be a Molly Mormon anymore and I don’t want a Peter Priesthood either. I do like the church’s values and teachings, but I am no longer a strict adherent to everything the church says. Marrying into church is also scary for me as a woman because women are ultimately presided over in an lds marriage. This kind of marriage is inherently unequal and is not something I am comfortable with.

Most of my social interactions come through the church right now. It is scary even thinking about how to meet new people outside of the church, especially those who don’t appreciate what it means to have been brought up in the church. I’m still working out how to proceed, but I definitively understand your struggle.

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I was so impressed by Benji during this interview. It was definitively heart-wrenching to listen to all of his struggles. He really did try his hardest to conform, but I think he ultimately made the best decision for his life. I wish him all the best.

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Thanks for the welcome and support everybody. I really appreciate everybody’s words of wisdom.

I really liked this sentiment.

wayfarer wrote:

The truth of the church is in restoring the idea that God continues to reveal His will through the heart and mind of those who listen to that still, small voice. God is not to be found in the creeds and orthodoxy, but rather, in the one to one personal experience that we call testimony. And this testimony is not the rote version so familiar to us, but rather the discovery, line upon line and precept upon precept, that God is nearer to us as humans than we think. The truth of the church is that we have a divine nature explained by a plan of salvation that uniquely lays out pre-mortal existence and the possibility that all may be in a realm of glory. These things cannot be proven, and truly are unknowable in logical terms, but they can be felt. To know that God is one of us leads us to a higher knowledge that we can be one with god in many unique ways. God is not so distant, but as one of us, fully knows our weakness and has more compassion than we possibly can realize.

At the same time I feel that I have been conditioned my whole life to just accept whatever the church tells me as truth. It is still somewhat difficult to rebel against what has been ingrained and etched into me during my upbringing. Right now I am in process of really examining how I feel and think about things without the church tinting my views. Many of my views do not line up with the church’s, however there are some views that do. I’m hoping I can conserve some kind of middle ground without compromising myself in the process.

leavingthecave25 wrote:

Welcome. It sounds like you are probably in about the same stage of your life as I am.

nomdeplume wrote:

I also worry about having relationships and getting married. I am single and I feel like if I date anyone at church in my singles ward I am falsely advertising myself as something I am not anymore.

I just started a thread about this a few days ago. This has been a concern for me in my faith struggle as well.

I’m glad that I’m not the only one with this concern. Thanks for the heads up on the thread, I will definitively go check it out!

Thanks again to everyone for the welcome, I look forward to our future discussions.

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