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I don’t know. I really struggle with this one. I will sustain them until they tell me to do something I think is wrong. So is that really sustaining them? Or do I need to trust in their guidance more than my own to count as sustaining?
Quote:Also of note is that you can pay your tithing to church headquarters if you don’t want your local neighborhood bishop, ward clerk, etc. seeing what you pay.
Really? That is fantastic. Do you still have to do tithing settlement though?
How do you go about this?
My husband is a CPA and a TBM so he handles all but the day to day expenses of the family. I honestly have no idea how much we pay in tithing or taxes. Since I have been a SAHM for 18 years I have made only incidental income which I paid 10% gross on, but the income was so small it didn’t matter if it was gross or net. I think if you attend church regularly, attend the temple, etc, that you should pay something in return for the services that the church is providing you.
I’m not that crazy about the insight it gives the bishopric into your finances if they use it as a way to ask for additional donations, as our bishop frequently does.
Quote:I also think my parents have no clue of all the ways the church was harmful to me.
Are those things that you knew at the time, or realized in retrospect?
Based on situations of people I know who have been harmed in the past, I have tried to protect my children from having the same experience. One as it relates to abuse, but also gender roles, and their relationship with priesthood leaders.
Roy, I am so sorry about the loss of your little girl. I have 3 nephews that were stillborn, and I know that my feelings of loss in no way compare to yours, allow me to say that I can’t imagine how difficult that would be. I was heartbroken over my nephews. Quote:You are not the same as everyone else that attends your ward
I wonder if this is true. I’m guessing there are people in my ward that feel the way I do, I just don’t know how to find them.Quote:Methinks you give the church way too much credit. There are many many many children who grow up to be completely screwed up who grow up in gospel centered homes
I know there are a lot…there are a lot that are very close to me. But for my children, in specific ways for specific reasons, it has been beneficial.
“The very same people who are good sometimes, are the very same people who are bad sometimes” -Fred Rogers
It is one of my favorite quotes ever.
Thank you for the warm welcome, I literally cried with relief today when I found this site and that there was a “place” for people like me.
