[scotty]

Hey everyone, thanks so much for all of the great advice. You’ve definitely given me lots to think about going into this.

Something interesting happened last night. It had only been a few hours after I made my first post on this topic and I was over at GF’s after work. She’s been sick so we were just relaxing and she mentioned that she had come across a blog post from one of her old friends in high school. GF wanted me to read the post and tell her what I thought. Believe it or not, this post was about her friend’s spiritual journey and how this girl had left the church for a while and then came back, but as a skeptic who still didn’t agree with the church on many issues. The friend mentioned that she had read some anti-mormon literature online and talked about a few of the things she had learned. After reading through, I agreed with some of her points (the girl mentioned a couple of things in church history which don’t sit well with me and also talked about how she dislikes the church calling itself “the one true church”). However, she also blamed her hypocritical roommates and bishop as reasons for her disbelief in the church.

I finished the post and decided to feel things out with GF. I asked her, “why did you want me to read that?” I was secretly hoping that she might say something about how she had been having similar concerns and wanted to talk about it. However she said “I just think she’s stupid for writing a post like that. She obviously hasn’t really thought things through since she’s letting the behavior of other people drive her from the church.” She didn’t mention anything about the historical/doctrinal points. I pointed these out and she just said “well, of course that’s going to be an issue when she gets information from a biased source (referring to the “anti-mormon” sites). You can’t trust anything like that.” I just sighed and decided to let it go. (We were both tired and it didn’t feel like the right time to bring up my true feelings about the church, as she was already defensive). I came home and read some of your comments about how hard it is to go into marriage pretending to be something you’re not. After that conversation, I couldn’t agree more.

We’re going out of town next week and should have some time alone. I think I’ll have a talk with her then. I’m not looking forward to it, but everyone’s comments here have made me understand that it’s really necessary. I just don’t want to hurt her more than I have to. Wish me luck.

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