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DarkJedi wrote:

Welcome to the forum. I’m glad you found us.

Please understand that I mean this out of concern for you and I have no ill intent, but the first thing I suggest is professional help for your depression and self medication.

I’m assuming your sibling has not taken many steps to actually become a female, or else your parents don’t see her much. That’s pretty hard to keep secret once the process starts. Nevertheless, she has confided in you and that’s positive – except that it also puts a burden on you since your parents don’t know. You and I both know suicide is not the answer, but that doesn’t change anything. The only thing I can say about that is that you need to continue to love her unconditionally, regardless of what the church says. You cannot be in any “trouble” for loving your sibling.

As to your doubts, focus on what you do believe. Ignore the rest for now, that stuff isn’t going anywhere and it will still be there when you’re ready to deal with it. If you believe that God loves you (and your sister), focus on that. If you believe that Jesus Christ is your Savior, focus on that. You said you believe the church is true – focus on that and look at what aspects of the church you think make it true. Other stuff you believe will also come into focus. I know what you mean about the questions not seeming to stop, I felt that way once, too – but they do eventually stop.

I’m sure others will pop in to say hi and probably offer better advice than I do. Don’t be a stranger.

I thought that was very helpful. I am seeking professional help and my wife is aware that its become a problem. We’re working together on it. My sister just started taking the steps such as hormones and things. The fear comes in when she does tell my parents and other siblings. She came out as a gay man two years ago and it was a disaster. I think this will be a whole lot worse. I just don’t want her falling into a depression again. Its good to know I’m not the only one who’s staying and had questions. Its a strange place within my ward and family, I feel like I’ve been the only one to come across anything. I’ll try your suggestion.

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