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Haha looking back at this post and laughing now. After I moved to NC, I immediately started dating a guy, broke up, got back together, and now have been married for almost a year. Interesting how things worked out. He struggled a little with some of my disbeliefs but we were able to work through them and get to a place where I felt comfortable going to the temple. But as far as being liberal, he’s a Mexican that came here illegally with his parents as a child and blessed through Obama’s DACA laws so you can imagine what his current thoughts are on the current political climate of the country. Robert, go where you truly believe you are supposed to be at and pray to know where to go. You will be an amazing member wherever you go! A lot of people have been commenting on the ecclesiastical endorsement. I believe the rule for activity is attending a ward once a month. As long as you are attending a ward, I’m sure you will be fine. I had roommates that would go home every weekend and go to their home ward. If you specifically go and ask your bishop for advice about where to go, he will most likely give you the same answer as the student did. I will say this though – I really enjoyed my experience at BYU-Idaho. Some of the best moments of my life were at that school, in my ward, with my roommates and FHE brothers. I hope your experience is as positive as it was for me. If you do decide to go to the YSA student ward know that everyone is in the same boat. The ward dramatically changes every single semester and no one knows each other at first. Some may be in the ward multiple semesters, but many will not. That can be a positive and a negative thing. It can be positive because everyone is in the same boat in trying to get to know each other. For this reason, wards are really designed to have get to know you activities and encourages you to develop friendships in your FHE group. It can be negative when you get really close to a person and then find out that they will either not be in the ward or not be on track the next semester. That can also make dating difficult. Also know if you decide to go the YSA ward there will be other opportunities for you to be involved in the deaf community. At devotionals there is a deaf section where someone signs all of the devotional. Sitting in that section may help you to get to know some students in the deaf community or others that know sign language. Also, there is the sign language student associations. They may do some activities with the local deaf branch.
If you decide that the deaf branch is where you are supposed to be at, know that you can still be involved with your ward through ward activities and FHE. I would really encourage you to try out FHE – whether or not you go to your own or Adam’s group. FHE is a great way to make friendships and take some stress off by doing something fun.
Good luck, Robert. I am so excited for you. I hope BYU-I is a positive experience for you. You may be surprised with how many others at BYU-I think similar to the way that you and I think. I have had a surprisingly diverse set of roommates throughout my time there.
https://www.sunstonemagazine.com/pdf/139-58-63.pdf Interesting read on Bushman vs. Vogel
Today in my singles ward our counselor read the 1st Presidency letter and then the bishop started an HOUR long discussion about it. It ended up taking the place of Sunday School which ironically I was supposed to teach about “Love one another.” From the comments said during this discussion, I felt ostracized and felt like I was the only person in the room who actually supported the SCOTUS ruling. There was one person who actually raised his hand and proposed those who support same sex marriage on facebook probably shouldn’t have a temple recommend which is absolutely WRONG. I don’t understand why this issue is something that is constantly being spoken on in my ward. We don’t stand at the pulpit and talk about how much we are against alcohol and then constantly write about it on facebook or blogs, so why do we do it with this issue? Aren’t there way more important issues in the world than same sex marriage? Church was a little frustrating today, but I was glad to hear that in the ward that my sister visited this week, “Come Join With Us” was the theme in Relief Society which was tied to the Presidency letter. Incredible story! Welcome to staylds! We are looking forward to hearing things from your point of view. I finally read the article “What is Official Doctrine” (which is on the stay Lds homepage) and that really helped me understand and know what to do with the contradictions of the church. I would encourage everyone to read that if they haven’t already. I guess my ward is a week behind because we just had this lesson. My teacher went straight from the manual which drove me crazy and even more frustrating, OW and the any opposed group were mentioned and criticised during the lesson which I think took the spirit away from the meeting. When this quote is brought up (because it has been brought up 3 times in the last 2 weeks in my ward) what do you say? I wanted to say something so badly but I didn’t know what. It think it’s because I still haven’t figured out a comfortable balance between following the prophet and personal revelation. Or is it best just not to say anything at all? Thanks for the comments everyone! Right now I’m really just trying to have fun and “play” as amateurparent said. I think that’s a big part of why I’m moving to Raleigh, North Carolina – more people, more stuff to do, and more opportunities. Shawn, Sorry that that has been your experience with medication. I was completely against antidepressants for a long time and finally decided to try it out a couple years ago. I have experienced both the positive and negative effects of medication. When I first started taking meds, I was put on Zoloft which made me unbelievably nauseated for the first few days. A couple weeks in I had an extremely embarrassing side effect. Finally I was put on something else for several months which didn’t seem to help with my depression. So, I was put on yet another medication. At that point, I hated going to the doctor/psychiatrist so much because it seemed like nothing was working. Finally, they put me on what I’m on now and which has helped immensely. My depression isn’t completely gone, but it’s helped a lot.
Best of luck to you – whether or not the solution is changing meds, seeing a counselor, or just hanging in there until you find what works for you. It took me 10 years to figure out what worked and finally be brave enough to try it.
Old-Timer wrote:We teach a grace that is FAR more expansive and extensive than nearly all other Christian denominations. The vast majority of members simply don’t realize that, and that includes many leaders.
Ray, can you explain this a little more? I guess I’m one of the members that don’t realize our doctrine on grace fully, but now I’m curious.
